Driving Conversations
Posted by She-Parent at 2/23/2008 8:34 PM and is filed under uncategorized 
She Child and I always seem to have really good talks while we're driving. We had one today on the way home. We talked about why she-parenting is necessary and why my mom isn't a She-Nana.
She started out asking about getting fired from jobs...
She-Child: Have you ever been fired from a job?
Me: Yes. One.
She-Child: Why did you get fired?
Me: They thought I stole money, but they hired me back a month later when they found out they were wrong.
She-Child: You went back?
Me: Yes. The old manager got fired and they hired me back.
She-Child: Did your parents believe you?
Me: I didn't live with them at the time, so I don't even remember if they knew about it.
She-Child: How old were you?
Me: 18.
She-Child: Wow, that's young! When did you move out of your parent's house?
Me: When I was 17.
She-Child: Why did you move out so young?
Me: She-Nana and I didn't get along.
She-Child: I can't believe She-Nana was ever mean! Why are grandparents so nice when they have grandkids but not when they have their own kids?
Me: It's easy to say "Yes" all the time and be "the nice guy" when you don't have to stick around for the tantrum that happens when the parent has to say "No". I'll be really nice when I'm a grandparent too. :smirk:
She-Child: ::shoots me the 'No Fair!' look::
Me: You know, kids who never hear "No" from their parents grow up to be very unhappy adults.
She-Child: Because they can't handle "no" when they grow up?
Me: Bingo! Since I don't plan to give you everything you want for the rest of your life, I figured I better teach you how to handle not getting what you want all the time.
She-Child: ::sarcastically:: Thanks Mom!
Me:
I love our driving conversations.
She started out asking about getting fired from jobs...
She-Child: Have you ever been fired from a job?
Me: Yes. One.
She-Child: Why did you get fired?
Me: They thought I stole money, but they hired me back a month later when they found out they were wrong.
She-Child: You went back?
Me: Yes. The old manager got fired and they hired me back.
She-Child: Did your parents believe you?
Me: I didn't live with them at the time, so I don't even remember if they knew about it.
She-Child: How old were you?
Me: 18.
She-Child: Wow, that's young! When did you move out of your parent's house?
Me: When I was 17.
She-Child: Why did you move out so young?
Me: She-Nana and I didn't get along.
She-Child: I can't believe She-Nana was ever mean! Why are grandparents so nice when they have grandkids but not when they have their own kids?
Me: It's easy to say "Yes" all the time and be "the nice guy" when you don't have to stick around for the tantrum that happens when the parent has to say "No". I'll be really nice when I'm a grandparent too. :smirk:
She-Child: ::shoots me the 'No Fair!' look::
Me: You know, kids who never hear "No" from their parents grow up to be very unhappy adults.
She-Child: Because they can't handle "no" when they grow up?
Me: Bingo! Since I don't plan to give you everything you want for the rest of your life, I figured I better teach you how to handle not getting what you want all the time.
She-Child: ::sarcastically:: Thanks Mom!
Me:
I love our driving conversations.
I finally understand why there are so many unhappy grownups now. They had no She-Parents to tell them no. It's all starting to make sense...
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I also think it's because grandparents have more time to give their grandchildren than they had to give their kids.
This was a great dialogue with your daughter and you taught a lesson with it too. Nicely done.
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